For Friends

Big Things Little Things

I’m worried about my friend. What should I do?

Friends on the University of Utah campus

Friends that care enough to reach out can make a real difference. Sometimes doing the small things can help more than you think, like sharing your concern or simply offering a listening ear. You can also help your friend understand that stress is a normal part of life that nobody is immune to.

Here are some ideas:

  • Take your friend for a walk.
  • Listen to music together.
  • Write them a note about how they are appreciated.
  • Be specific about your concerns – let them know you notice.
  • Rent a funny movie and watch it together.
  • Listen to them without judgment or giving advice.
  • Laugh together.

I’ve tried lots of different things, but nothing seems to help my friend. What should I do now?

It can be difficult to have a friend in distress. Your friendship is important, but sometimes they need more help and information than you can give. You can help connect your friend to a counselor, clergy, or other campus resources- external link. Often, this may be just what they need to take the next step. Many people find it helpful to talk about their lives with someone trained to listen and understand where they are coming from.

How can my friend make an appointment at the University Counseling Center?

Visit the Making an Appointment page.

I’m worried that my friend is suicidal. What should I do?

Having or expressing thoughts of suicide can mean different things for different people, but it’s important to take any mention or suspicion of suicide seriously.This is definitely a time for your friend to talk to a counselor. Let your friend know that they have the option of talking with a trained professional and help them make an appointment.

Whether it’s helping your friend with the big things or the little things, the University Counseling Center- external link is here for you.